What if He Never Changes? How to Stop Waiting and Start Healing.

Change is a popular topic in the New Year. Promises to work out three times a week or walk 10,000 steps a day (that’s me). But this week I was thinking of a different kind of change.

Not the kind that fixes circumstances overnight, but the kind that changes where I place my focus, my responsibility, and my care.

My turning point began this way. I once stood frozen in my sadness, knowing I couldn’t keep living that way but unsure how my circumstances could ever change.

All I knew for certain was that I couldn’t do it alone. In all honesty, my life was on hold waiting for someone else to change first. I believed my life would instantly improve if the other person woke up to their need for change.

I prayed for it to happen, and I was angry at God when the answer didn’t unfold the way I wanted.

One morning, as I sat quietly with my thoughts, a realization surfaced that stopped me cold: I couldn't make another person change, but I could begin making changes in my own life. And for the first time in a long while, I felt a tiny flicker of hope.

I was beginning to understand that some burdens aren’t meant to be carried alone. Scripture gives us a tender picture of this kind of shared support.

In the Book of Ruth, Naomi urges her daughters-in-law to return home, hoping to spare them from her hardship. Orpah returns home, but Ruth chooses to stay with Naomi.

Her words, “Where you go, I will go,” remind us how much it means to have someone beside us during difficult seasons.

Sometimes the first step toward change isn’t doing something dramatic. It’s allowing ourselves to be supported. Change can feel difficult, especially when you've spent so long trying to keep the peace. But it can also bring relief as you begin making changes that are healthier for you.

And maybe you've felt that deep knowing too, that something needs to give.

Have you ever had that feeling that something needs to give? If you have, here are two questions to think about.

Is there something in your life you've been putting on hold while waiting for someone else to change?

What might one small step toward change look like for you right now?

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

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