The Power of Encouragement: Surrounding Yourself with Uplifting People

You know, I wasn't sure what to write about this week. But early this morning, when the house was quiet and I was sipping my coffee, my mind drifted back to a recent visit with my oldest daughter. Something about that memory stayed with me; the way she paused, listened, and offered the right words without trying to fix anything.

And it made me think about the kind of encouragement that strengthens us - the kind that helps us breathe again.

In last week's reflection, Taking Hold of Yourself, we talked about honouring your own voice; that moment when clarity starts to rise and you begin to see people differently.

Some voices steady you. Others make everything inside feel unsettled. Some bring calm to your spirit. Others add to the confusion.

So let me ask you gently:

Who do you have in your life?

Is there someone you can lean on when the weight gets heavy? Does she make room for your story or jump in with opinions before hearing your heart?

If that sounds familiar, you're not alone.

Scripture says, "Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice." Proverbs 27:9 (NIV)

But here's the reality we know too well:

Not everyone gives heartfelt advice.

Some people mean well, but speak before they understand. Some rush you. Some try to solve your life in three sentences. And when you're already hurting, those moments can sting, especially when you're trying to find your way through today and tomorrow.

But safe friends are different.

You'll know them when you meet them.

They're the ones who respect where you are in your journey, even if it's complicated. They don't hurry your healing or pressure you into choices you're not ready for.

They sit beside you and listen.

They make room for your heart.

There's something deeply comforting about those women. Being with them helps you stand a little taller and breathe a little deeper.

And if you don't have a friend like this right now, please know this: you're not forgotten. 

Nothing about your story disqualifies you from finding safe, steady women to walk with.

Here are a few places to start:

• Reach out to someone who has already shown kindness, even in small ways.

• Look for a support group where women share similar experiences and understand the hidden parts of your story.

• Consider a therapist trained in emotional abuse or difficult relationships.

  
  

There's a woman I think about often, a woman whose family insisted she “keep trying” even though her marriage was deeply damaging. Their advice left her more confused and alone. But when she finally stepped into a room full of women who understood, everything shifted.

Their stories and wisdom gave her courage. Their steady presence helped her find her footing.

Sometimes, one safe circle can mark the turning point in your life.

And here's the truth I've learned over and over again:

Encouragement isn't just kind - it's life-giving. 

And genuine friendships aren't one-sided. Healthy women don't take and take or talk and talk - they pour back into you, too.

Good friends don't drain you - they lift you.

They show up with the same tenderness they hope to receive. That kind of mutual care is rare and deeply healing.

You deserve that kind of support. You deserve women who listen with care and speak with wisdom. You deserve encouragement that strengthens you for the road ahead.

And it will come, one safe connection at a time. Maybe this week you needed to hear that.

So, for now, be encouraged. Those women are out there. And as you take small, brave steps outward, you'll begin to notice the ones who feel steady, kind and trustworthy.

Next week, we'll step into the Christmas season together and look at how to walk into the holidays with a steady heart, a clear mind, and a little more peace than you had before.

So, until then, be kind to yourself.

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